I know exactly how you feel. I am just waiting for her to "get it", all I can do is work on myself and wait. I have also had that thought that so much damage has been done, so much time has passed without doing something about it, it may just be too late to fix it now.
However I let those thoughts pass away and I keep doing the work. I do see subtle changes in her that give me hope that I am doing the right things.
Shelby remember I told you that I was in your husband's position years ago. I was totally disconnected from my wife. The only connection left was that of a friend. I was ready to walk away from her because I could no longer see her as my lover. Then slowly, very slowly she won me back. It took months before I was convinced that she wanted me in that way again, really wanted me.
If he has not walked away yet he is probably waiting for the proof that this is real, that you really do want him again. It just takes time for it to sink in before the connection returns. That's how it happened for me.
I know that it is hard to have patience. Just keep doing the little things that show him that you love him.
