Hi Trusting, sorry to hear about your mum. I think your H probably meant well. Maybe he feels slightly uncomfortable, he wants to help and be there for you in your grief but feels you may misread his kindness and caring as more than that and he doesn't want to give you the wrong impression in your vunerable state. He obviously still cares for your well being and maybe he thought the friend could help? Just guessing but I had a similar situation with my x at one time. Not sure why he was wanting info for x, maybe you misunderstood his meaning. Take care.
