I had an encounter with the EX this week. First time I had seen him in over a year. We had some unfinished financial stuff to deal with regarding our divorce. EX still owed me some $ on the division of property. For four months, through emails, he has been trying to convince me to take a "discounted" payoff of the property settlement. I kept declining because it did not make financial sense to agree to such lunacy. I knew there was something foul amiss or he would not have kept at me. I finally convinced him that I wasn't taking a lesser amount of money. And then, lo and behold, I receive an email from his bro telling me that he was going to pay off a loan to his brother (my EX). My wonderful, superior lawyer had made sure that the money EX owed me was secured by the money his brother owed him. Confusing, I know. Bottom line: I received a final payout for all of the money EX owed. No discount.
It was so surreal sitting at the bank with Wanker and his other brother,Daryl, no, I mean WankerII. They smile and try to small talk and act like they aren't the conniving shysters that they are. Lying and deceitful till the end. It was very entertaining for me. I am so glad that I am not a part of that family anymore.
My EX was pleasant and friendly but uncomfortable. He didn't know what to say so he asked me about the upcoming hockey season. I could think of 3 very important things he could be asking me about (Sons!) but that never happens. It did not upset me at all to see him. I felt no sadness or regret or connection at all. Strange, but also lovely to have that feeling.
I doubt that there will be many (if any) more post-D encounters. It just doesn't seem like the opportunity will come up. He has distanced himself from the boys and thinks he is the Dad of the Year because he takes them out for lunch every so often. He has declined to help with taking S18 to college next month. It appears he wants to remain "hands-off". Whatever. That's between them.
So, Wanker encounters aside, Spitty is having a great summer. I love the warm weather and do not look forward to it getting colder......except for the hockey, that is.
Later, Friends,
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
I could think of 3 very important things he could be asking me about (Sons!) but that never happens. It did not upset me at all to see him. I felt no sadness or regret or connection at all. Strange, but also lovely to have that feeling.
