I recognize that this is more about my W's attitude about herself - particularly that she is hyper-sensitive to being judged by other people, and that would certainly include the M counselor.
Rob
Someone on this board said to me something like, you are who you judge, or you become who you judge. This very much applies to my W who can be very judgemental of people, and to find herself in the position of being judged would be something very hard for her to take. So yes, she avoids all discussion about what happened in the past, in fact the only time I really mentioned it she said she doesn't think about the A or OM at at all.
Sometimes I find the A hard to take, well the A and some of W antics to destablise me and our M so the A could take place, but the negative feelings come and go and I am getting better at pushing them away. So my motto is as my title "move forward and try not to look back".
For me life is almost good, but its getting there.
