hey W2G, I have been following in the background. No doubt about it, these are difficult times and our spouses actions affect us. We all have to get to a point where we feel we can survive without our spouses....until then we are at the mercy of our spouses' actions (good or bad). This is a very difficult place to get to. I am struggling to get there myself. Hang in there W2G, we have all come a long way.....the road is very long and full of potholes....try to avoid them as best you can. Let's hope we can get to a smoother road soon.