I Guess I'm Still Piecing

[RedHeadWife]

So, H & I got into a knock down, drag out last night -- at least for us anyway. He was on the phone w/ his sister. I thought I heard him say something like "oh and guess who else called me" as he moved to the other room like he didn't want me to hear. I, of course, confronted. He had said something totally different & I believe what he said. I, of course, couldn't just let it go at that. I told him that he really hadn't told me anything about OW/EA to let me know "why" I didn't need to worry about her anymore, just that he had told me that I "didn't need to worry about that individual anymore."

He said she is now married (which I already knew from other sources). I said, well, it's interesting to me how quickly she got married after you left (for Korea). He said well she was dating him before I left. I said well why didn't you TELL me that, why did you allow me to think she was the reason you were wanting to leave me. (this is what hurt the most) he said she wasn't quote on quote "the reason he wanted to leave."

We then went our separate ways. He came in when I went to bed & was really sweet. He actually commented on something that he noticed about me - my earrings - meaning he was paying attention to details about me. He also then said in a really cute way "well, it's not really your fault anyway, you're pretty over-emotional the 20th to the 25th of every month anyway."

Soo, long story short, unfortunately, this sh*t doesn't just disappear and I think sometimes we women make a bigger deal out of things b/c the guy just doesn't want to discuss things and we're left to "worry" or "wonder" about details. The guy seems to just want to say "it's over, let's move on."

For the most part, though, we're doing really well.