Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

[Bridgestone]

Bridge,

You did very well on the vaction with your kids and H. You both were able to see the drama coming and most of the time walk away from it. I'm betting in the past a full blown fight would have erupted. So take that as a positive.

Thanks D67, I have been trying to spin it positive. The sad part is, some of it felt like it did to me the few months before I dropped the bomb. Walking on eggshells with a wall around my feelings & thoughts, just trying to keep the peace for the sake of the 'family'. Did NOT like that feeling. It hurt me. I need to find a way to reframe that.

Maybe instead of trying to do things that you use to do together you need to find new and different things.
I am sure that you have new interest and hopefully he does to, explore them and see where that gets you.

No he does not actually. The only other interest I can see that he has started doing is spending time working on the homework for communications counseling we are doing together.

He still has no hobbies or outside interests or friends that he spends time with. One of my complaints from the 'old R'. I reiterated this to him in Counseling over a month ago, he expressed some interest in kite flying.

I sent him some website & have tried to start conversations about it (as I went and did some research to have something 'new' to talk about) & now I think I know more than he does. And this is during his 'slow' time at work when he would have the time to explore a new hobby.

Take care and try not to dwell on your S leaving and school starting too much.

Thanks.... I'm trying.