Welcome. I think you have come to the right place for help. The first thing you need to do is to stop calling and texting. You are right he needs his space right now and it is necessary for you to give him that.
He is in a world of pain right now. He will need to work that out and see how he feels about trying to rebuild your relationship.
I am glad that you realized that your husband is the man that owns your heart. You right now need to focus on you a bit while you are giving him space. Why did things go downhill for you? What could have prevented the affair? Why were/are you so unhappy with yourself? Look deep and hard and your answers will surprise you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
