The Twisted Irony (16)

[lodo]

Hey gForce,

I'm just going to throw this out -

You wrote a bunch of pretty negative stuff about how things were between you and W leading up to the first D date. Has that changed? Are those issues being addressed?

I don't want to see you end up where I'm at - where you get back together and then it all explodes again several years down the line.

lodo

[gForce]

Thanks, lodo. I definitely do not think that everything is free and clear, and we definitely have issues to deal with. Some of the biggest are with family blending as the recent posts have indicated. I think the issues pre-DDay you refer to have to do with my concerns about W's emotional immaturity and lack of commitment to our R. All I can say is right now her commitment is strong, and her actions support it. I am aware that after this "honeymoon" period I will need to watch this but right now I am optimistic. Our MC and her IC hopefully will help us as well. Trust issues persist from me and concerns from her about my falling back to old patterns are things that I believe only consistency over time will address. I do see myself falling into old ruts, but what I have learned over the last several months will help me (I hope) stay vigilant.

No quick fixes, obviously, but I think the important issues are being addressed and not just through rose-colored glasses. Thanks for keeping me on my toes. I am not taking anything for granted.

I am anticipating thread lockage soon but I will resist the urge to dangle another one.

[smith18]

Dont you wish you could look into the future? There really is no way to predict what may happen and I imagine when Lodo first reconciled with his W that he never knew it would happen again. It is a chance you have to take. You have to have faith that your W has gone through a single hiccup in your marriage and will never faulter again. If she does, then it is time to say adios, but for now, give her the benefit of the doubt that she is sincere.

[gForce]

Amen. I look at threads of people who have been married (happily) for decades - then the Bomb is dropped. If I'm looking for certainty, I'll never be in another R again. But I feel good about where we are and I hope we can learn from going through all this crap, and use it to build a stronger future.

[girlfromipanema]

If I'm looking for certainty, I'll never be in another R again.

I like that little nugget of wisdom. I always learn something from you, g.

You're the best. Wishing you continued bliss.

[kat727]

Glad to hear that things are still going well for you.

kat

[kat727]

I saw that Star Wars was on tonight as I was flipping channels. Just made me think of you. So Hi for no real reason at all.

kat

[gForce]

That's a "real" reason! It looks like "The Clone Wars" is a real disappointment. The next real event is the last 10 episodes of BSG -- at least until Hellboy III.

[kat727]

You are such a big kid! My FH took the boys to see Clone Wars and they said they liked it. To each their own. The way time is flying the new year will be upon us and BSG will be back!

kat

[gForce]

Yea... what's up with the earth that they found, anyway? Is it past, future, unrelated to real life timeline? W says she is going to try to watch it with me. A 180 for her, since it never interested her before.

SD8 was pretty sweet with me last night. I picked her up from day care and we hung out before W got home. I made a joke about how I was the boss - only until W came home. She said "Well good thing you are not one of those evil step-dads!"

D14 has been a little more relaxed when I have talked to her on the phone lately. I told her I would try to get down there some time after Labor Day and she sounded enthusiastic about it.