That "just wait until Monday" line sounds exactly like one my H used when I'd first moved out and was still in Dublin. (It's so much easier to give advice on someone else's situation than to see your own clearly I guess!) I wouldn't take this to heart too much, even though I know how painful it is. At least he scheduled the C appointment, and this is what really matters, and this is a really good sign. He is saying he is depressed, and my guess is he doesn't want to be this way around you, that he doesn't like the way it makes him look to you, and he probably feels guilty around you. He wants to see you when he feels he has something to give.
So he wants to hang out but not spend the whole day. Again, this is exactly how my H was. He was fine for a couple of hours, then it was as if there was a shelf life on us being together. He starts to shut down and get really uncomfortable. My guess is that your H too knows that he can only deal with this for a short time before starting to feel pressured somehow, even though you are obviously not intending to pressure him. He probably feels that he cannot think clearly when you are around, but this doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy being around you.
At least your H said he was making an effort (even though you already know you shouldn't have sent that text!:)). Again this is like something that happened to me when I was being over eager. I had said to H, "at some point you're going to need to be able to be around me for a day. I'm your wife". This was very bad too, but he said that he was trying, just wasn't there. Now you know your H is trying, so please don't mention it again or he may start to panic and push you away. He doesn't know why you miss him because, my guess here, he doesn't feel like a whole person who can contribute to the marriage. Maybe it would be better to try and move toward showing him that he can be around you and not need to be happy and have fun, that he can deal with his own issues and you can be supportive without making him feel like he needs to give more yet (again not suggesting you're pressuring him). Maybe if he feels that way, he will feel less threatened about moving back in with you. Also glad that you lightened the mood with your texts, sounds like that might have worked well.
Your H is probably getting bored a lot because he's feeling depressed, and doesn't know what makes him happy. This is how my H is too. It doesn't mean he doesn't like being with you, but he's still confused (my guess), and he probably doesn't yet feel like he can open up to you completely without feeling really guilty. He probably sees it as work to try and keep up a somewhat happy face while he's with you, and he's probably aware of your expectations--even if you don't voice them. Hopefully you can use the C sessions to help him feel more comfortable, and remove some of that pressure.
Like you, I'd love a man's point of view on these situaions!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
