No kidding! I could use some extra money so I may be selling more than books pretty soon!
Anyway, mini-update...spoke to H tonight he has D...odd convo..he seemed totally preoccuppied and wanted very much to go so I cut it short. He called back about 30 minutes later to tell me our 13 year old D was in her room with the door shut. I was like...yeah and???? He asked me if that was normal. I was like...dude...she's 13 of course it's normal. Anyway, right after he totally wanted to get off the phone again. Seriously wtf is his deal???
Feeling like I'm not so sure all this is worth it again. Oh well, I'll have changed my mind by tomorrow.
I collated all my books and hid them as I didn't want my h to see them and realised that I now have quite a collection. Thanks for the suggestion, i'll have a read.
Spoke to H briefly while I was making dinner (he has D with him at his house). Anyway, I had purchased some ahemmmm...adult toys for myself and told H "hey..listen to this noise and tell me if you can identify it". So I put the "toy" up to the phone and pressed the on button...he says..."what the hell..its sounds like wind". I just laughed and said...nooooo it's my new boyfriend Bob. He was like what??? I said...Battery Operated Boyfriend. So he laughed and said when did you get that??? I said...just recently anyway...I gotta go..I'll talk to you later. So I hang up and 10 minutes later he calls back and says "hey...that would make a cool picture". I was like..."what would". He said..."THAT"...giving him a hard time.....I was like "WHAT". He said...I can't say it...D will hear so I said...ohhhhh..ok well I think you owe me a picture before I send you another one. He says...can't do that..I will feel like a perv. So I said...well...if you get bored later and want to ummm...have an adult chat on the phone...give me a call....I gotta go. He sounded stunned.
Anyway...It was fun to kid with him...I wonder if he'll call......
Girlfriend! I've read every book you can think of...Languages of Love, 5 Languages of an Apology, How to get your Lover Back...Divorce Busting, Divorce Remedy, The Surrendered Wife...sheeeeeeeit! The list goes on and on...I have trouble though because I don't have him here to practice what I've learned...it pisses me off!
DITTO. Seriously. My nightstand is overflowing. I actually knocked two books off reaching for my alarm clock this morning. Yet he can't be bothered to look up stuff on google on us. Why is that? I haven't read the Proper Feeding book though. I've been leary of it, because that Dr. can bug me. But I might have to give it a chance. Hang in there.
You're right, our sitches are a lot alike. Everyone is different, but for my sitch I really think keeping that physical contact helped. And my H has done a HUGE turn around in the last 4 months. From first wanting nothing to do with me, to doing stuff with me, then making me feel like crap afterwards when he'd get weird and tell me he regretted it, to now where it's totally mutual, and he initiates just as much as me.
It was slow but steady progress, and I do think it's been a componant thats helped keep him questioning, and not filing yet. So if it feels good to you, and there isn't another woman, I say go for it!
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
OMG! So check this out...he didn't call back, but........he made up some stupid reason to drive all the way over here. Okay so he's been out since June 1st right? And he decides that tonight at 8:30 pm he has a burning desire to come and pick up his damned cat. After two and a half months...the cat has gotta go to his place now??????????
Anyway, so he gets here and promptly sends D out to find the cat and get all the cat stuff together to put in his car. As soon as D goes out the garage door he says so where is the stuff you bought. So I show him my toys and he says...show me how you use them. I'm like noooooooooooo..not now D is downstairs. So he says just real quick and I said..nuh uh buddy...showing you that would take a looooooooong time and I don't want to be rushed because D might come back in and wonder why you are upstairs with me. So he says I'm a tease and I responded with no...you just find a time when we won't be rushed. He rolls his eyes...and I say do you want to ML to me to which he quickly responds YES. Right then D comes in and says she's ready to go...the cat is in the car. He tries to talk her into taking her evening shower at my house which I believe is so he and I can have some personal time, but D refused. HAHAHAHA! He was VERY disappointed. I think I may be on to something here...I don't want to tease him, but maybe sending him away frustrated every once in a while will keep me on his mind more??
What do you think? Any men wanna give me some feedback too?
Hey, Chris...I hear you Dr. Laura bugs, but it was an interesting read. Especially the parts about how we as women put everything we have into our relationships with everyone but our H's. She's right...I totally neglected H..spent all the good in me on other people and should have cherished him more
