Thank you everyone, this truly is a tough time. My mother was a great lady.
I can't cry anymore today. I am exhausted. I don't know what I would do if ex was nasty at this time.
He came at 7 and we told the kids together. They cried, we cried. It was so nice to come together as a family. I could tell he did not want to leave. He asked me if I was sure I wanted him to be a pallbearer. He wanted to know whose idea it was. He wanted to know if any of my brothers objected. I told him it was a family decision. He said I could change my mind at any time. I told him that would not happen.
He rescheduled the trip to Disney with my kids and OW -- yuk....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11