The problems started when D sensed something was up every Sunday night.....W would delight in how frustrated I would get with this.
Translation: Wife did / does not understand the relationship between physical and emotional intimacy for a man. She saw it as recreation: the Sunday night game, the physical release for H. You saw it as your one chance each week to finally express your love, feel loved, and to revel in the deep emotional connection following the physical connection.
It's not the same for her, so she doesn't get it with regard to you.
Does she understand it now?
For what's it worth, Cinco, I empathize. I can remember watching the calendar, counting down the days, anticipating the night when I could *finally* approach her --- only to have it all dashed by a headache on her part, an exhausting day for her so she'd be completely beat by late evening, or something else. So that while she slept that night, I'd be left to pace about the house, wanting to go outside and scream at the moon or something, but with nowhere to vent.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
