Me: W, I set my boundaries and you crossed them. You have to leave. I won't live like this.
Good. You set a boundry and now enforcing it. Never a bad thing to do.
Quote:
W: (crying now) But when will I see the kids?
Me: Any time you like.
Bad. Maybe for now it is okay but over the long run bad.
Why?
That means she can come and go as she pleases.
Bad for you. Or is YOUR life LESS important than hers????
Bad for your kids. "I planned to spend tonight with dad yet mom shows up" or "I planned to be with mom and she no-shows".
Kids do best on a schedule. They need to know what to expect. Email me and I will send example schedules if you need, or do a google search.
YOU do best on a schedule.
Someone else will find Frank desirable and no need for former W to bust in uninvited!
I am on a schedule and it is the best for everyone concerned. Everyone knows the plan and can plan accordingly.
No schedule = worst for everyone.
You are doing great.
It sucks, but this is her choice. Interesting how she tried to justify an affair b/c of you.
She is lost and so good you recognize that.
But time to think of you.
She moves. Along with that are conditions. She does not come and go as she pleases. She sees the kids on a set schedule - a schedule set for the KIDS - not her.
Animals? They do not factor in.
Her choice, not yours.
Now you make the choices. What is good for Frank and the girls???
