Went and played another game of softball. Not doing so good this year. It is still fun to play.
I have been wondering about her being so nice and saying thank you so much. Is it part of guilt, trying to keep things the same, ect?
She also uses the term we, us and our quite a bit. She was using that quite a bit with the detectives. Our bedroom, his bathroom ect. I don't put much stock into it, just kind of weird.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Last year I pitched all year. This year we have a guy with a bad arm so he is doing the pitching. Tonight I played first, short stop and outfield. Just the way it worked out.
The bad thing is this year all the tournaments are on weekends I work or I have guards. I have only been able to go to the one that got rained out. Still a good weekend.
Yenko
Last edited by yenko69; 08/20/0801:43 AM.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
I love softball. PLayed some last summer, when my wife was having her affair. Hadn't played competitively in over 20 years, but did pretty well. I play mostly 3b, but also some 2b. It was fun for my boys, who both play rec and All-Star baseball, to come out and root for ME for a change!
This is the second year I have played in about 10. I played one league about five years ago. I love playing also. It would be great to play more tournaments, but that is the way it goes. Maybe next year.
Are you still playing? Both of the girls played softball in the past. One is to old the younger keeps breaking bones. How old are you boys.
Last edited by yenko69; 08/20/0802:05 AM.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
No, I stopped playing when they started bringing in a bunch of 20-something Hispanic ringers to play, and they all took the game WAY too seriously. Didn't really fit the 30s/40s/50s guys I signed up to play against, and play hard, talk a little trash, and go out for beers afterward comraderie I was seeking.
They have a few teams around here that do the same thing. Stack up with ringers and start to get to serious about the game. Most people are just out to have fun and enjoy themselves.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Well the other night my W called me about a financial problem. She went on about what to do about it. Then she said that life really sucked right now. I just about went off on her, but controlled myself. Maybe I should have just let loose on her and see what kind of reaction that got.
I talked to her again yesterday when I was driving through town. Basically it came down to she is going to have to sell the car she loves so much and get something cheaper. I guess some reality about this is starting to set in. She called last night but I was already in bed, so I guess I will call her later.
I was talking with a friend I have known all my life last night. He is of the she is seeing someone else so divorce her. Of course he has been divorced twice and kind of bitter. It is tempting, but I don't think I am at that point yet.
Funny how little trigger emotions. Happened earlier today. Just got really sad and heartbroken again. I have been more down lately, not sure if there is a good reason for it. It must just be a cycle that comes and goes.
I keep thinking about what you said puppy about taking a harder line. My biggest thing is my W has some real abandonment issues. It is a fine line not to cross into her issues and her perception of people and events that I am giving up on her. To many people already have. If that happens she will blame herself and would probably resign herself to that fact as "normal". She may just give up at that point. Not really sure though. I suppose that could be one of the reason I have been down lately. Trying to find some sort of balance. I know it can't stay this way anymore.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
btw, you don't need to "let her have it" when she complains about finances, but nor do you have to sympathize. Just lay a TRUTH DART. Something like "I agree -- this is going to be hard on all of us." or "There's no question that your decision to have an affair is going to hurt us BOTH financially."
The important thing is not to rescue her from the consequences of her infidelity. "This is your mess; YOU get to clean it up" should be your mantra.
