Thanks Neil and Wifey. Maybe when we all get perfect marriages....then we can all become writers and get rich and famous! But, I'd just settle for a very happy marriage, wouldn't you? I know they are possible b/c I saw it in my own parents. That is not to say they never had problems, but they "talked" and were able to work things out. My parents R was different from the role model set before my H with his parents. They had a good family, etc., but he did not see the same type of "closeness" I don't think, like I saw. His parents stopped sleeping together when their kids were still home. Maybe that is why my H doesn't seem to think much about it not being that important for him to sleep with me. That has been a problem all of our M life. He never wanted to go to bed at the same time that I did (which was just normal "bedtime") but I had always seen my parents go to bed together and I could hear their hushed whispers and giggles. I thought that was what M was all about. Then I marry a man that doesn't even want to go to bed with his bride about a month after the wedding.....except to have sex....and then gets back up to watch the late movie! So much for intimacy. Anyway, there is always at least two different ways of looking at most everything. And, that is why we are all here to help each other see different sides of the picture. I for one, appreciate all of you and just wanted you to know that. I don't know what I would have done without the people here on this board.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
