Congrats on the raise, and you're right -- in today's market, that's a GOOD thing!
Have you made any decisions about what you'd like to do re: emotional and physical closeness with your husband, in light of your current situation?
a) ignore the weekend like nothing happened, and go back to being distant
b) ignore the weekend like nothing happened, and try to stay close emotionally and physically
c) talk to him about the weekend, say it was a mistake, and go back to being distant
d) talk to him about the weekend, say it was nice and desireable, and vow to try to stay close emotionally and physically
e) other??
I'm curious as to what you think. You either need a new plan, or some resolve to get back to the OLD plan, IMHO.
Puppy
Sue,
Just curious, have you given any thought to this? Trying to understand where you are in this gives us some context in trying to help you along your chosen path.
Nothing like a short haircut in the summer to make you feel light and sassy. I'm sure it will be relaxing to be at your parents' house and with D4 again. I miss her when you're not with her too. The visit to the Dr. sounds like it went well. You know, I've found sometimes simply NOT thinking about things is an improvement. Take some time to just relax, spend time with your family and enjoy life. Your problems will always be waiting for you when you get back. No point in dragging them everywhere you go! And since really, your problem is not your problem, it's your husband's problem, there's nothing you can do to fix it anyway.
Hey Sue, I just wanted to stop and say Hi and make sure you are doing better. It sounds like you are going to have a well deserved fun weekend! Enjoy yourself. hugs
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Puppy, I didn't want to ignore your question. We didn't really ignore the topic of what happened over the weekend. We didn't do a lot of talking about it either though. It happened and it didn't seem to scare him away. He's kept in touch. I know that probably doesn't seem like an answer you were looking for but nothing really came of it. It just happened.
I'm anxious to get out of here for the weekend. I leave in about an hr. & 1/2. It's been a productive day at work for me so it's gone by fast. D4 called this morning and was very excited. She caught her FIRST fish. She went out fishing with my parents and one of my nieces. She ended up catching 5 total.
H had called me at work yesterday and asked me to go to dinner with him last night. I thought he wanted to talk about some things with me, but he didn't. Just wanted to go to dinner. He called me today asking when I'd be leaving for home. He asked me to call him later so he'd know where I was, as it's a 5-6 hr drive through mostly rural areas where phone service goes in & out.
My SIL called me last Friday asking if I would consider coming down to IN over Labor Day weekend so she, our 7-year old niece & my FIL could see me and D4. She told me that my BIL (H's brother) wanted her to also tell me that if I EVER need anything that I am to call and that he loves D4 and I very, very much. Anyway, H called today and said....I heard that you might go to IN over Labor Day weekend. I told him that it was talked about. I said, it shouldn't matter much to you though, as you're going to be out of town with your brother. He said that he's still not sure if they're going but that he was surprised to hear that I might go to IN on my own. He also ASKED me if I'd consider letting him come with if he didn't go somewhere with my BIL.
I know I've let H get closer the past week and yes, it will hurt all over again if I let it continue and he just walks all over me again. I've seen that side to him lately that I love. It's been hard staying distant from that.
Have a good weekend.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
