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Ladybug,

It is scarier than you think because violence escalates. Once the boundary has been broken about using force to contol you, there is no telling where it will go. This is physical abuse and cannot be tolerated.

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Mrs. L- you are reaching out to us all who care. you have children. G-d forbid he does this to them. dont say never. you need to protect them and you.

what can you do to get help today?


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I'm not trying to minimize things. But I also don't thinks it's a desperate situation. I saw him today. We took d4 for her first dentist visit. Afterward, we ate lunch. It was very casual. Of course, with d4 there, we didn't talk about anything.

We have a lot going on this week, so we'll see each other quite a bit. We have kindergarten orientation, and an allergy specialist for s2 (that in itself is a long story that landed us in the ER last weekend after he ate a walnut). We have a child care orientation, and a day care picnic. So, we'll be seeing each other.

I've told him before that I think we need a third party present when we need to talk. Not just to keep the conversation on course, but to keep us both from escalating. I guess I can go back to that.


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good. that is a start. i would not be alone wit him in your house. maybe just these settings in public you mentioned above.

it is too damaging to you and your kids to witness this.

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Lady...speaking from someone who has been through an abusive marriage, this is the way it starts. It does't start with your H beating your head in, it starts with words to break your spirit, controlling mannerisms, and then to top it off they throw the physical violence in. I just want you to be very careful. Sneaking into your home in the middle of the night, to me, is very disturbing behavior. Expecting sex when he isn't even speaking to you is very controlling behavior. You don't need this, you are having enough of a hard time, and this kind of behavior is not normal.

(((Ladybug))) you are precious to us and we don't want anything bad to happen to you so please be careful.


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Lola, that's sweet. And, after I called you a whore.

I'll be safe.


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LMAO...yes thats me. The DB whore. It's all good...


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(((Ladybug)))


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Could you refer me to the thread where Ladybug calls Lola a whore? I missed that and it sounds interesting.

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It's not as interesting as is sounds. It was on Fish's update thread.


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