OK more blogging for me...something I have been thinking about lately....
SPIRITUAL ISSUES AND SSM'S
As most of you know, I am not sex-starved any more. Thankfully.
But there is a strange parallel in my relationship.
My man and I pray together. We both need it. We both love it. After we do it together we both say "wow I feel sooooo good now". We know prayer works. We pray for our relationship, our family, our health, our current dilemas in life, we pray in thanks for all that has come into our lives (both good and bad, as we rarely know the difference at first).
But here is the dilemma...I have HIGH need for regular prayer and he has LOW need for regular prayer.
He knows he needs it and feels better after doing it, but there is not the "push" within himself that will cause him to intiate it. He will always wait for me to initiate. If I leave it up to him to initiate, weeks or months can go by with no prayer together.
Does this sound familiar???
I have finally just fixed this problem by declaring that we shall always pray together on Sunday evenings, no one will intiate it, it is simply what we do on Sunday evenings - no excuses, no putting it off.
He has no problem with having it on the calendar and then there is not the pressure on him to remember to initiate.
Of course, if we are talking about sex, it is very unsexy to put sex on the calendar for once per week....but have the HD husbands here tried that tactic?
(ducks as beer cans and tomatoes are thrown at my head by HD husbands who don't like this boring suggestion)
OK, sorry to suggest this because I know you have all already "tried everything" and this one probably fell through the cracks or was met with unenthusiastic disrespect...but really, have you tried the "can we put sex on the calendar" approach?
And also...have you prayed together with your wife lately? If this is important to her, she can really feel sad if this has been being neglected.
I so much wish my man would take charge of our prayer times...but I am happy that he at least accepts it being on the calendar. It is a compromise at least.
When I was waiting for him to initiate prayer together, I would be resentful and angry each day as no suggestion by him to pray together was made. "Doesn't he know how important this is to me? I have told him so many times?"....."Why doesn't he want to do it on his own accord? He knows how great he always feels afterward!". But alas, as I said, I am the one with the HIGH desire to pray regularly. He wants to pray but he can go without if no one prompts him...so I have to learn not to take it personally and to do whatever I have to do to get it done.
I know its not that easy...which is why I was joking about y'all throwing things at my head....
