Need Advice Please!

[twinhope]

So confused once again. Ever since the talk when he came over he has been acting as if himself. He called last night to say goodnight to the girls after their bedtime and said he lost track of time. He said that he missed the girls alot and it has been a rough week for him. I made the conversation quick and told him to have a nice night. Then he texted me this morn at 6:30 to tell me to give the girls a big hug and kiss for him and a big squeeze and said he missed them a lot and then told me to have a nice day.

He then called me at 11am and was down and missing the girls and wanted to propose a new visitation schedule that his 23yr friend has for his son. It would only add 2 more days a month but the way he was presenting it was like he had seen a lawyer. I did not get mad just had questions and asked what that did to the support and also that we agreed we wanted things to be stable for the girls. I told him that these are the consequences of his actions. Things can't remain the same. I backslid again and said that he does not want to work on this. He said that he is the one that is losing everything and all that I am losing is him and I never cared about him anyway. I told him that he knows that that is not true. He said he did not get a lawyer and does not want to. It is a waste of money. I asked about why he has not used his open access with the girls and he said that I make him feel uncomfortable. He has not been around the house to hang out with them in over a month. I have been so upbeat, friendly, nice, etc with him. He is basing this off of the old me and he said that he doesn't know why I have not called him and suggested him coming over to be with the girls. I

I told him that I did not think he knew what a divorce was. He can't have his cake and eat it too. I was real bad and should have never went down this path with him. More steps back. I don't know what he wants. He said that I never suggest anything in our situation ie. visitation, finances. He then has to be the one to break the ice. He said that he wants to do whatever it takes to keep me and the girls in the house and he will get a 2nd job in order to do so. I don't understand him at all. This is a far cry from 2 mondays ago where he let his guard. I am thinking it is time for a letter. I don't know, any suggestions. I did mention to him that he said that he did not want to lose me and I said what does he think he is doing. He responded and said that he thinks he has already lost me and that we are not friends. Sooooooooo frustrating!