I am not new here. I have spent most of my time in another forum. I do however, need help, and hope I can help others too.
I have read HopefulinCal’s threads and an amazing intro story from Smartcookie along with others.
I first came here when my D was being finalized. That was 3.5 yrs ago. It seemed like the people here were my only friends. The only ones who knew the pain I was going through.
I have come across other hurdles since then. Felt that pain again and it doesn’t just come from a marriage gone bad. We take the time, and we learn. Read the books and come here to post. But most of all we hope.
I met someone after my D. Yea, I didn’t think it could happen either. Went into it pretty cautious. She did too as she was also Getting D’d and knew all about DB’ing.
This is my problem. She knew as much about Dbing as I did…maybe more. But I couldn’t let go. Every time I tried the LRT, I would cave in a week. At best ten days. I couldn’t help but think, “ah, she’ll know what I am doing and continue to resist” because she knows the LRT. I am embarrest to say that this went on for months. Emails and texts trying to reason with her. Nothing got through but I still tried. I missed her so much.
I have done my GALing and I date (heart not really in it) and have met some very nice people.
I have now made it two weeks without sending Es or Ts but I found myself crying a little today so I wanted to write something. I know I pushed hard to save what we had.
To the WAS:
Did your spouses push hard?
How long did they persue?
How long after they stopped did it start to make a difference? (I know this answer will vary)
