Hi Ms ladybug,you said you can't imagine H ever hitting you? Yet you wrote
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J, you are bigger than me, and you are stronger than me. You use your physical strength to restrain me and to intimidate me. I repeatedly ask you to stop and you push harder. For me, when physical force is used, communication stops. It scares me, and puts me into a position that I can't hear you, and I can't talk to you. The fact that you crossed my arms behind my back and an inch from my face, you spoke through your gritted teeth is an image I can't forget. When I pleaded with you, you crossed my arms harder to the point of sheer pain.
This in my book is physical violence and a huge red flag. Does he have to knock you to the ground or kick you before you think that is unacceptable. Please don't allow this behaviour. I am sorry but your h has big problems with anger, even blocking your way from a room is intimidating and abusive. You have a young child. Please take care.
