Hey Baggy - beards are great! I highly recommend them, on your face. Beards in other places of the body need taming, but it sounds like you already got the memo.
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Hey - I saw Ali asking if people had seen her pic? Where? Is there a place where we can post pics for each other? I want in!
Hmmmm..... Let's see. Have I got all of these hygiene areas covered?
Eye brow trim... check
Ear hair plucking... check
Nose hair trim... check
Pit trim... check
Wild hair area domesticated... check
For guys another area that is often neglected... Finger nails and toe nails. It took me years to get into the habit of using an emery board along with the nail clippers to keep my nails smooth on the edges. Don't forget the cuticles either.
Real men also use hand cream to help to keep their hands smooth. If you want to put your hands all over her, she'll love you for it when you keep them as soft as possible.
Real men also use hand cream to help to keep their hands smooth. If you want to put your hands all over her, she'll love you for it when you keep them as soft as possible.
I'll actually disagree with you here, Cinco. Perhaps some women want their man to have soft hands, but many women love a pair of strong, masculine hands, complete with callouses. It goes to the masculine/feminine dynamic: soft curves vs. hard muscles, soft, feminine hands with long fingernails vs. 'workman's' hands.
I know that my own wife misses the calloused, stronger hands of my youth, when I worked in the field and down in the plants, as compared to the softer, 'keyboard' hands that I have now from working in my comfy office at the university.
'Tis the price we pay for better pay. I also have to specifically "work out" now to stay in shape --> 'working out' used to simply be part of the job. That part, I miss.
-- B.
Last edited by Bagheera; 08/19/0802:32 PM.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
I didn't say girly-man hands. I mean strong, tough guy hands, just with some of the rough edges taken off. I have received complaints when they were too claw like. I do see your point about the masculine/feminine dynamic though.
My workout is my yard and I also do a lot of handy work around the house. My job keeps me in good shape too... I'd trade it for better pay though.
Hey Baggy - beards are great! I highly recommend them, on your face. Beards in other places of the body need taming, but it sounds like you already got the memo.
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Hey - I saw Ali asking if people had seen her pic? Where? Is there a place where we can post pics for each other? I want in!
DQ
I only asked you if you had seen the pic of my girls... SILLY GIRL! I dunno the new policy cause I have been here so long. You used to be able to put links to photos. { of your Family or yourself}
I know for sure the Private messaging is disabled. I hear many people here also are on Facebook.
Start there maybe or let me know what the policy is if you know.
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I found this in FAQ~
I dont see anything about pictures.... DUUNO DQ~ I posted a link to my xanga account that my son set up for me years ago. He put a silly picture of me and my girls. I posted in the 'post' with the 'videos'. In 'my' thread. It contains no email or personal info of mine. I used to be afraid the "other woman" would read it. Seeing as it is a public forum... and then realized I never really made deragotory comments about hubby or her really. So it wouldnt really matter to me if she put my pic with my posts...
I think it depends on personal comfort level. So now that you mention it .. I dont really know the answer... and I hope I didnt step on anyones toes. I love being here... I get amazing support.
Let me know what you find out. K? Prayers and blessings.. Ali ~Ali
Ali - but where would I see it? That is what I cannot figure out. I thought maybe I had missed a post that had a link to some pics from you. Can you let me know "where" to see a pic of your kiddos, I do want to see it. Are you talking about another board where there are pics of yours?
As for man-hands, girly-hands, and Mr. Hand....
I have to agree with somewhere in the middle between Cinco and Baggy - STRONG, BIG hands, to be sure, are the best kind. But dirty fingernails are only acceptable if a man has just come in from work 10 minutes ago and hasn't had time to wash up.
Rough edges and callouses are only ok when a man hasn't had time to get in there and take care of them, so maybe if a few days go by, that's ok, but overall....
I want STRONG, BIG hands that show signs of hard work but which have soft skin, they are overall tended to, fingernails groomed, cuticles under control. I can't have his fingers going places that don't see sunlight until those fingers have been purged of all dirt and rough edges.
We women just want it all, don't you know? :0)
Another one I forgot to add to the hygiene list is BREATH. If you drink coffee at all, even just one cup per day, you need a full mouth clensing including floss every single day and specifically before open-mouth kissing. In my relationship, I drink coffee and he doesn't, so I am the one rushing for the floss and brush the minute I get home from work so we can kiss shortly after ward.
Dang...now I'm all bothered by wishing to be home instead of work, so I can brush and floss and then attack my man. This morning, (well, this happens nearly every morning but...) this morning we were being lazy, hitting the snooze button, snuggling and kissing and caressing....pretty soon that turned into rolling like thunder, making out, humping.....then I was running late and had to leave....that always makes him try even harder, because sometimes he can get me to call in sick to work (and it is a fun challenge for him to do so)...but this morning I really couldn't be too late so I had to literally RUN AWAY from him because he was about to force himself on me (which I love)...and I was yelling promises about how great the sex will be tonight when I escape from work and rush home to him....that still wasn't enough for him and he came into my dressing room and continued to forceful attack by bending me over the dresser....I barely escaped with my panties on.
And now I am stuck at this desk all day until 5:00. Oh bother. I hate my life.
LOL!
Obviously, sarcasm.
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I haven't posted many details about my upcoming wedding here, but just as a girly side-note, I have finally picked a wedding dress (off the rack, it is an elopement destination wedding, no guests), it has come into the store in my size, my two best girlfriends are going with me to try it on and purchase it this Saturday.
For background, my first wedding was in a judge's chambers and I was 8 months pregnant. So I never got to wear a real wedding dress. And now...well I finally have an adult, grown up sexy woman's body...I was merely a teen the first time...so to finally get to wear that beautiful white dress will be fun. I tried not to feel cheated out of a wedding the first time around, as all my friends walked down the aisles in their gorgeous gowns, non-pregnant, over the years. But of course, I did feel cheated. I am a girl, after all, and we place a high value upon that day and that dress.
Finally - I get to have mine.
And when I was younger, I was beautiful and fit...but somehow I just wasn't as sexy as I am now. I was a bit awkward and tomboyish...and now I am a vixen. Which (in case you don't know) its much more fun to wear a slinky, beautiful dress when you are a vixen than when you are a tomboy.
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Cheers everyone!
DQ
Ali - don't forget to tell me where to see your pics?
Baggy - somewhere you mentioned the Valentine's Day exodus. I know its long ago and no one probably cares anymore...but what happened around here anyway? The short version, please? Anyone?
I was off the boards during that time frame, so I don't know first hand. I did some post-digging to figure it out at some point, but the applicable threads/posts were apparently deleted.
All I know is that around 2/14/08, some poster(s) and moderator(s) got into a dispute over appropriate posts and/or the posting rules --> I don't know the details, and a rehash would probably be counterproductive. As a result, several SSM regular posters where either banned from the board or picked up their marbles and left the playground. A few drop by every now and again (under new names), but it was pretty scarce here for a time.
Shortly thereafter, the board rules and profiles were modified to further tighten the prohibition against private messaging and the exchanging of private addresses (IM, email, etc) between posters here. I don't know if this was related to what happened in February, but I do understand the need to protect someone from a potentially angry spouse/ex-spouse. It'd be nice if we could PM each other occasionally, but Meh, it's their board.
I was pretty surprised when I showed up here again in May to find NO ONE that I knew from before. However, we're slowly collecting a group of regulars again, and it's been fun.
Water under the bridge,
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
Cinco
I mean strong, tough guy hands, just with some of the rough edges taken off. I have received complaints when they were too claw like. I do see your point about the masculine/feminine dynamic though.