Hmmmm. Acting like it is not fine - how do you do that when trying to GAL? Does this involve boundaries? Or what is the "magic" formula?
Enquiring minds want to know...
Lost,
That's a great question. And it is a fine balancing act. But I think the simple answer is that you act your upbeat, positive, GAL, look-good/smell-good best at all times OTHER than when she either says something or does something that's wayward. On those occasions, you call a spade a spade ("speak the truth in love") but in a respectful manner.
And even in the former cases, even tho you're upbeat, positive, etc., your demeanor should be that of a good (but not best) friend.
Trust me, a woman can tell even if you do NOTHING else other than not look at her "that way" anymore.
