Agree...the answer is YES to the PDF question KerryK. Sgct may have left the link up on my site since it was a discussion we were having. I summarized a lot of it on my last 2 threads...even quoted some stuff limited with sg's permission. I would be happy to pass on the info except for the inability to post emails. Frank knows mine if any of you know how to reach him.

That PDF was a major turning point for me..it explained entirely my W's pattern of behavior.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;