Sounds like a dreamy weekend Barb and by that i mean the food!! omg! I swear if i eat anymore salmon and steam veggies i'm gonna hurl!! lol in fact I have sent Ry out now for a HUGE HONKING burrito from my fav mex. rest! LOL
Your bedroom sounds great!! love the white wicker look!! I bet its so pretty, pics please!!! How much longer are you at the cottage?
and yesss Phelps is amazing! My B and S both use to swim competitively , in fact my B came this close to being in the 84 Olympics. So our family really loves to watch the swimming, Also impressed w/ Torres, 41 and competing against girls half her age! I am ashamed of myself, its all I can do , to do that damn tread for 30 mins LOL
Have a great week Barb, sounds like the weather is finally terrific for you!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
When my Dad left my Mother with 2 children he never paid child support, even when it was court ordered. He didn't help my Mom out financially at all.
He had plenty of money, but it was all for him, and his girlfriends and their children.
Fast forward to wife number 3. She was a legal secretary. My Mother finally decided to fight for what was rightfully hers, and get paid retroactively for the child support she was owed for about 16 years.
When they got to court, my Dads wife #3 had falsified records stating that my Father only had a 10% interest in their home and some other bogus crap. My Mother ended up receiving only a fraction of what he owed her, and it was to be paid monthly in very small increments.
6 months later, wife #3 filed for Divorce against my Dad. He ended up with exactly what he deserved. Only 10% of the value of the house.
I call that Karma...or poetic justice.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
K: Just found my camera so now I can take photos. Never seem to have camera and cables in the same place.
Yeah the food is always great when Josh is here. My kids LOVE it when he cooks. He does like to dine in nice places too.
Finished planting everything in my new garden. Still need to add more soil and wood chips. But those can wait till next week.
I'm going home tommorrow. So much work to do for the studio and I'm hosting our family reunion at home next Sat. But I'll be back up here in a week. Can't wait. That will be my last summer week here, although I'll get up a few times in Fall.
Burritos, eh? Hmmm... mexican food is not my fav. But Ashley LOVES it.
That is quite a story. It sure does seem like Justice or Karma. But no one won, did they? Not you or your Mom. Not his 3rd wife (really) and especially not him. I just wonder if he ever felt regret or voiced it.
What is your R with him like today? I do feel sorry for your Mom but I'll bet she had a better life without him, even with less money.
When my Dad left my Mother with 2 children he never paid child support, even when it was court ordered. He didn't help my Mom out financially at all.
He had plenty of money, but it was all for him, and his girlfriends and their children.
Fast forward to wife number 3. She was a legal secretary. My Mother finally decided to fight for what was rightfully hers, and get paid retroactively for the child support she was owed for about 16 years.
When they got to court, my Dads wife #3 had falsified records stating that my Father only had a 10% interest in their home and some other bogus crap. My Mother ended up receiving only a fraction of what he owed her, and it was to be paid monthly in very small increments.
6 months later, wife #3 filed for Divorce against my Dad. He ended up with exactly what he deserved. Only 10% of the value of the house.
I call that Karma...or poetic justice.
BND, I don't think that was "karma" but I do think your father is a dumb a@#
You are right, nobody won.... But my Mother turned out OK. She never remarried but she lives her own life and is happier then he is. She inherited a good amount of money when my Grandparents passed away and that has helped immensely.
Her fiancee died suddenly of a massive heart attack a few years ago, so I think she is a little gun shy of another relationship.
He is on wife number 4 now!!
Funny story about that one too... In 1979 he got a girl pregnant, she was much younger then him. Right after the baby was born he moved away with me from UK to CA and never got in touch with the Mother or the baby. No child support, no visitation, nothing. I knew nothing about this child until years later.
In 2000, he received a call from the baby, who was now all grown up and wanted to meet her "Father". So, they got together and began meeting on a weekly basis, and he decided he owed the Mother a huge apology. Now she is wife number 4, he says it is his penance for being such a schmuck. But he is unhappy...still.
He says that leaving my Mother and me and my sister to pursue his own happiness was the biggest mistake he ever made, and he regrets it to this day.
I asked him once, when he was in between wives, why he didn't try to make a go of it with my Mother, and why he didn't ever try to come home.
He said he was too prideful and he knew that my Mother would hold it against him for the rest of his life, and knowing my Mom, she probably would have.
I don't have much of a relationship with him. He is too self absorbed to give a damn. When my D was in the hospital and we were dealing with the feeding tube fiasco and the MLCBS, he just couldn't be bothered to help, he said he had his own issues to take care of.
He calls every few months to say hello, and tell me about his life. He has no relationship with me and my children or my Sister and her kids. He turned 60 this year, and he is now begining to feel old.
My Dad was not a MLC'er, but his while life has been a crisis if that makes sense.
Yes, Braveheart, he is an arse, but he is also a very sad and lonley pathetic man, and one can't help but to feel sorry for someone like that, because he will grow old all alone with nobody to share his life with.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
BND: That is really a sad story. I'm glad your Mom is happy and especially that you have restored your M and keep moving forward. You must still be fairly young as your dad is NOT old enough to be my father. Hard to believe all the wives he's had yet he still realizes he never should have left your Mom. What gets into their heads? The grass is always greener I guess. I could relate to what your dad said, though. That his pride kept him from going back and that your Mom would have never let him forget it. I KNOW my ex felt this way. That, and the fact that maggot was determined he was not going to leave her on her own. Self centered people!
BND, I hear ya on that one! Believe it or not, I can relate totally! I have a father who is very similar to yours. I don't much of a relationship with him, he is not alone at present, but the way he goes through relaionshps, its subject to happen anytime. I do not, nor will I ever feel sorry for him. I am a firm believer that when you make choices, you have to accept what comes from them. I'm not much into feeling sorry for someone who spent a great many years hurting me, my brother, and sister.
So, he was a young dad for sure. Maybe one of the reasons he flipped out later on. Who knows?
I don't wish bad for him as I'm sure you don't. I just wish the walkaways would take time to consider the kids. Mine just flipped it off with "kids are resilient, they'll bounce back". Well my kids are no TIGGERS!
