Thanks so much TD. As always, you said exactly what I needed to hear. And this one I will read and re-read.
It's frustrating. Especially since I am an achiever. Everyone else (but the one most important to me) notices the good things in me. I so wish that he would. Then I get afraid that he might not ever again. I think I also have a bit of quilt and regret. I didn't appreciate what he felt and gave to me, until it was gone.
Jack T-B said something that that I read recently about (I think) strength/maturity(?) and not needing validation. In most areas of my life I have tremendous self assurance and security. I am beginning to realize though that both of my marriages have been to men that have left me craving validation.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
