That detachment thread is awesome and TD puts out a lot of really good info there.
Do not analyze anything, take it at face value. H is probably just as nervous as you about him flying in tomorrow. He knows you know about the OW and him breaking his recommitment. As time has gotten closer to him coming over, the reality of his choices are being hammered home and he has got to be questioning them. It will be okay. More importantly, YOU will be okay.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7