I'm devastated

[faithisbelieving]

Many know that frank helped save my life. Many know that I met him last week in CA and we had dinner together. I admire Frank. He's a good man.

Dear Frank,

The first line that you wrote me when others asked you to come into my thread almost 2 years ago was:

Were you always this boring?

It hurt frank...but...I didn't understand what you meant, then, nor did I realize that, in a way, you weren't really implying that I was boring. You were trying to open my eyes.

It's my turn frank..and I apologize. Were you always this wimpy?

Frank..you saved my life. It's my turn:
-how long are you going to suffer like this?
-how long are you going to let her continually break you?
-how long are you going to expect that she is going to come back to you with the status quo?
-you say you can stop drinking..but..you keep doing it. Once every 6-8 months is NOT abstinence.
-read the PDF again...is she looking at you as pathetic? you are know you are in that 'limbo'...remember her advice to break it?


Frank...why are you letting her destroy your spirit?

Why?

I give my W credit for saying ONE correct thing to me frank. When she finally retained an atty, I told her that this may NOT be the best time financially to do this. She responded:

There may NEVER be a good financial time to do this.

Frank...I've heard all your reasons...and IN PERSON...why this is NOT a good time to do anything. There may never be a good time, but, I am watching the slow destruction of my friend....occuring in front of my very eyes.

She is destroying you frank. I agree with the statements above from all your supporters. You know...we all want to save marriages here. You know that better than I. Personally, I feel great happiness for anyone whose sitch takes a positive turn...EVEN if it makes me feel like a failure for losing mine. But watching my good friend take a repetitive beating...is becoming painful.

I think it's time for you to make some difficult decisions frank. I think it's time for you to protect yourself...mostly emotionally. I think it's time for you to put fear aside and save yourself...or there won't be much left for the birds to pick on.

In the clearing stands a boxer,
And a fighter by his trade
And he carries the reminders
Of ev'ry glove that laid him down
And cut him till he cried out
In his anger and his shame,
"I am leaving, I am leaving."
But the fighter still remains

Frank..it's natural for a good person to believe in hope..but...as Jeff223 said...the 'bullets are killing you.' It's time to find your 'invincible summer' frank. Stop the hemorrhage. Stop the pain. Live again.

FIB