I'm devastated

[sgctxok]

I think all hope in your marriage is gone. This is sad, but I really think you need to seperate yourself from your wife now. You love what you once had and it is so hard to let it all go. Try to get over the grieving. All I can say is that it does get better. But you have work on loving and respecting yourself.


Kerry--

This is NOT what we do here. If someone decides that they are done, it is fine to support them, we DO NOT give them that recommendation.

And I completely disagree.


Frank--

No one can predict the future here. No one. But taking the high road and making good changes leads to more good changes. You've done a lot of good things, and only you and your wife see the whole story. Your daughter sees more than we do, but even she does not see the whole story.

YOU CHOOSE what's right for you. It may or may not be right (meaning it will WORK) for you to set the consequence of making your wife leave right now. Do you have any other ideas for a consequence for her as you work on improving the drinking situation and reducing your anxiety?

sg