BND, I hear ya on that one! Believe it or not, I can relate totally! I have a father who is very similar to yours. I don't much of a relationship with him, he is not alone at present, but the way he goes through relaionshps, its subject to happen anytime. I do not, nor will I ever feel sorry for him. I am a firm believer that when you make choices, you have to accept what comes from them. I'm not much into feeling sorry for someone who spent a great many years hurting me, my brother, and sister.