<<The day has gone by without a reply from him. I start getting all worried that I've started World War III by sending the letter, that he'll take offense, get upset.. then it will be lawyer wars... oh yes.. and all my fault!
Too bad if he does get upset, it's not your problem & not your fault ! I'm having to learn that I need to say what I want in the M, & not feel responsible if H gets angry.
<<I'll let go of the anxiety.
Good !
<<Living in the house creates a make believe world, living in the eye of the storm. Sometimes it's hard to believe this is all happening because this is still home. Like people said.. given time you adjust to anything.
This probably sounds stupid, but I had a weird thought as I was reading this........what about rearranging ALL the furniture in every single room ? Make it a NEW house for you & D.
<<The rope is frazzled, unravelling, ploinking apart. Let go, move forward, leave the illusion.
It's so hard to give up an illusion.
big warm hugs & love
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
