W went to drop off D12 at her friends house for an overnight. That was almost 2 hours ago.
D17 (18 in January) just came home and noticed I was mopey. She asked me what was wrong and told me she had overheard some of our talk this morning.
She told me that she had told he mom that she shouldn't date while she's married still. She's angry with her for doing it now but what is really bothering her is that I'm not holding her accountable for it.
She wondered why I didn't tell her to get out, how could I tolerate seeing her every day under these circumstances.
She said that I enable her, that 'mom always gets what she wants'. She gets to drive the Prius, she gets to come and go as she pleases.
I told her that is sure doesn't seem like mom really wants a divorce and D17 said "Yeah, she gets to go out and test the waters and you enable her to come home and play 'mom' when she wants to"
D17 said mom keeps pushing me and I let her get away with it. She said that I should file for divorce rather than continue to give up my dignity to her. She says that she thinks her moms actions are very disrespectful since D17 sees that I'm the one keeping the house running, and W acts like she is entitled to be here.
She said "Dad, you have a lot to be happy about, you have two great daughters who love you to death, you're a great man who has done awesome things. You need to get out among people and make friends, you're great at that but you've been staying stuck in this cycle where she controls everything.
And she won't file for divorce, she'll push you until you do it for her. She always makes you do the hard things so she won't have to. So do it dad, take your power back from her.
She said I love my mom, and breakups suck, but you deserve better treatment than what she's giving you and you keep enabling her.
She's right. I do have two great kids. I have given my power away for way too long.
