Take it from me, if your L is not fighting for you, get another L, my L was great & couldn't stand what my H did to me & how he treated me.
I really made my H mad, but I needed to look out for me. I got the house, 3 years alimony, the dogs & he had to pay over 9000.00 in L's fees. That included my L, his L & the mediator. Get someone that will stand up for you. My cousin went thru this same thing, her H was a cop & the L was on his side, she had to do her own fighting & didn't get much at all.
I to believe the OW rushed him & it is a game to her, she will be thru with him when she finds out he doesn't have any money. She is almost 2 years older than him & had a lot of experience. I think she is way out of his league, he has even said that himself. He thought he was going to get a lot of cash out of the sale of the house, didn't happen. The only cash he got he had to pay to lawyers.
I'm like you, I'm trying to tell myself I can do this but it sure is hard!!
