You shouldn't do what you feel or think isn't right, h4h.
Personally, I don't think it is right to act like everything is ok, when everything is not ok. Holding back feels wrong? But ignoring that she is with another man is right? You see what I'm saying?
You are a kind hearted, selfless man who loves his wife. To act anything less than loving feels wrong to you. Of course it does. But. think of it this way.....would you keep giving cookies to a diabetic because it makes them feel good (and they even feel love toward you because of it) even though you know it could kill them? Just because you love her, doesn't mean you should support her when she makes a decision that affects her and her family negatively. You are the clear headed one right now. As unfair as it is, it is on your shoulders to show her what she is doing is a big mistake. You are her only chance. You and seeing what she is doing to her kids. I pray she is able to see, through you, what she is doing, before she loses everything.
Good job leaving before she got there. That was strong. Good job being there for your girls and being available to them when they call you tonight. That is strength.
I bet the vulture contacted you.......did you respond? If she hasn't yet, she will this week or weekend. Be prepared. Think it through in your mind how you WILL NOT answer the phone, and you will NOT return any messages or calls. The only thing you should say to her at this point is, "I'm sorry, B. I realized that I really need some time to myself and my family right now. I don't want to hurt any feelings so I wanted you to know the reason for me having to cut ties with you. It's nothing personal. I love my wife dearly and need to focus on my family and her to do whatever it takes to not lose her."
