I agree with Woog. Pretty much every day I find something I could dwell on to make me unhappy about my current situation. I have to mentally "turn the channel" b/c otherwise I could so easily escalate things and wind up arguing or being bitter. I know you aren't doing that with your W, I just mean that setting any traps/snooping won't lead you anywhere good.
My H is also uninterested in sex right now. He keeps saying we need a stronger emotional bond. Seems like crap to me coming from a man, right? But with our Retro weekend we are communicating a lot better and it seems like he is truly desiring for us to stay together and rebuild the relationship. Part of me wonders about OW and if she is a reason he doesn't want to be intimate. But going down that road will make me moody and pathetic or bitchy and overbearing and neither will bring my H closer to me...
I am hearing the negative side of John come out more these days. So apparently things with W are sliding back to the old pattern? Leaving you out of her work/social life, "hiding" behind D7 to avoid being too close to you? Guess, if you are still interested, it means time to ramp up the efforts like you were a few months ago.
Take care John. I want you to enjoy your life....not just to settle.
