I read your sitch. I, like everyone else here, could ask you a ton of questions. I think I can also answer some of yours.
When you waw'ed, did your H pursue? How long did he pursue? What got you thinking otherwise? Was it when he quit persuing and how long after? Or was it that he found someone new that sparked your interest again?
The reason you may be having trouble with H (if he did what the rest of us did) is because he begged and pleaded for another chance. Probably told you things he kept deep inside. Guys generally have the same feelings as women, but what we show is different for the most part. It isn't until we lose it that we feel the need to express them.
When he pursued, did you shut down? Ignore him? Not answer emails until you got really pissed?
