At times, I feel so very well detached. At others, I must struggle to go forward. Eg, it amazes me how nonchalant she is...as she cheers and screams in front of the TV for the Olympics...and talks about how many laps she swam...while I worry how to pay each bill as it comes in.
I know exactly what's going on here. I have lived your life. She's fighting for a replay of all that she thinks she missed and above all she's fighting to hold on to a youth that is gone, and that is what she absolutely can't face it. It's not really about other men. Because of their age it's about how they make HER feel about HER. She probably never liked herself, not really, but she really doesn't like this middle aged person that has taken over her body.
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guess she forgot that I paid for her to swim there. I guess she forgot that when I couldn't make the preschool tuition that included the pool, she yelled at me in front of my son that I was delinquent in the payments.
She speaks to you like this because in her eyes You have become the parent, and we all know where she is emotionally. She's at that rebellious stage!
Good luck. Raising a 40 something teenager is not for the faint of heart. I should have taken his Speedo and his MTN bike away from him and made him sit in the naughty chair! If only I knew then what I know now...............
