Ex called me this afternoon inquiring about my mom. Of course, I cried and broke down. No way can I hide these feelings. I could tell my crying made him very uncomfortable. He had plans to take my children and OW and her child to disney starting Friday for a week. He asked if he should cancel this. I told him that I wanted my children with me during this time. If he and OW wanted to go, that would be his choice. He cried with me for a while. About 3 years ago he lost his mom. This is what started his MLC. We talked about the pain when we lost his mom. He told me that he thought that would be the lowest point of his life when he lost his mom. He said that he was wrong, the lowest point of his life is right now. He told me he was very miserable and stressed. I asked him why. He said he could not talk about it right now because I was going through so much. I told him I would always be there to listen.
Last edited by TRUSTING; 08/18/0810:15 PM.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am sorry that your life is as difficult as it is. I would like you to know how much I appreciate your candor and honesty. I can see all these things happen in my situation. It gives me hope. Thank you, and know how much you help so many of us. Give your Mom a hug from all of us. H.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Trusting, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. Sending warm and loving thoughts and prayers to you and your mother this evening.
We are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Trusting, I am so sorry about your mom. I have been dealing with that sort of stress too. My mom does not remember my H any more.
I believe your H is beginning to reach out to you. But please ensure that you are taking care of yourself now. You have so much on your plate to deal with....
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. You don't know how much that means to me. You are all such good and kind people.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T It is so interesting that your H speaks of now as the lowest point in his life the guilt the shame the reality of giving it all away for a moment of fun and it stopped being fun a bottom the reality of his life that isnt what he originally thought it would be i often wonder what my H thinks as he rarely looks happy and often seems moody, distracted depressed or confused
prayers for your mom peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I have gotten alot of strength from you knowing that you also have dealt with the pain of losing a parent and a spouse.
I am just trying to follow your lead...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
