Karma - What's your Story???

[brandnewday]

You are right, nobody won.... But my Mother turned out OK.
She never remarried but she lives her own life and is happier then he is. She inherited a good amount of money when my Grandparents passed away and that has helped immensely.

Her fiancee died suddenly of a massive heart attack a few years ago, so I think she is a little gun shy of another relationship.

He is on wife number 4 now!!

Funny story about that one too...
In 1979 he got a girl pregnant, she was much younger then him.
Right after the baby was born he moved away with me from UK to CA and never got in touch with the Mother or the baby.
No child support, no visitation, nothing. I knew nothing about this child until years later.

In 2000, he received a call from the baby, who was now all grown up and wanted to meet her "Father".
So, they got together and began meeting on a weekly basis, and he decided he owed the Mother a huge apology.
Now she is wife number 4, he says it is his penance for being such a schmuck. But he is unhappy...still.

He says that leaving my Mother and me and my sister to pursue his own happiness was the biggest mistake he ever made, and he regrets it to this day.

I asked him once, when he was in between wives, why he didn't try to make a go of it with my Mother, and why he didn't ever try to come home.

He said he was too prideful and he knew that my Mother would hold it against him for the rest of his life, and knowing my Mom, she probably would have.

I don't have much of a relationship with him. He is too self absorbed to give a damn. When my D was in the hospital and we were dealing with the feeding tube fiasco and the MLCBS, he just couldn't be bothered to help, he said he had his own issues to take care of.

He calls every few months to say hello, and tell me about his life. He has no relationship with me and my children or my Sister and her kids. He turned 60 this year, and he is now begining to feel old.

My Dad was not a MLC'er, but his while life has been a crisis if that makes sense.

Yes, Braveheart, he is an arse, but he is also a very sad and lonley pathetic man, and one can't help but to feel sorry for someone like that, because he will grow old all alone with nobody to share his life with.