Question for you... would it make any sense financially for you to purchase the house with the owner financing, but make it a rental?
I ask because MIL did that after her first H walked out (my FIL). She bought a condo of her own, and rented it out when she later remarried. I know it may sound counter-intuitive, but I think it was very mentally and emotionally healthy for her to KNOW she had a place to "land" if anything like that ever happened to her again. She said she'll never, ever give up that security after going what she went through. When her 2nd H became abusive, she had a "home" to go to.
Yes, you can be committed to your M but still protect yourself. The dupe furniture... well, you could rent it partially furnished if you wanted. Or if there's room in the garage, stipulate that your furniture will be stored there. Something like that.
I don't think it means you're not committed, at all.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
