thank you ladies for showing me that there are great gals out there, because i would be a real woman hater right now if it was not for you and my mother.
I feel the same way about you, and all the other men here. If it weren't for y'all showing me how truly upstanding men are capable of being, my opinion would be really low right now.
Originally Posted By: JWS
here mom called to tell me that she did not come home last night. Great. I asked her not to bother saying anything. she was either with him or a girlfriends house. Not something i can control so who cares.
That's a great attitude. I've kind of adopted that attitude, too, that my H will probably start dating someone else one of these days. I've decided not to think about it as the end of the world if it happens. One, you're right--I can't control it. Two, our old R is over. Am I mad about the people he dated before he met me? No. I'm not even mad anymore about the EA and the kiss with the old girlfriend. (Honestly, those incidences convey so much desperation on his part, they make me feel empathetic towards him more than anything, now.)
I view it as: our old R is over, and maybe someday we can have another R if we both make changes and grow.
In some strange way...I almost hope that he does start seeing someone, because he will be that much closer to facing himself, and hopefully healing himself. Isn't that weird? It'll hurt like hell, but I guess I just want him to start his journey, whether I'm on it or not.
I dunno, do you think you could feel that way about your W?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
