NC, you were the ONLY one that 'got it'. If I had come downstairs in my t-shirt and messed up hair, H would have chased me for sex. No kidding!!! lol lol But that was only one reason I didn't confront, I was exhausted and knew not to approach right then.
EVERYONE IS RIGHT!!! I need boundaries. We need to talk. Can't change the locks just yet, H still owns 1/2 the house. When the D is final though, I can change them, I suppose. Boundaries with the house will be hard, because he will be caring for them in MY home 4 nights a week. UGH I need a day job. lol
It is cruel for H to expect so much from me...a welcoming home, a friendship, for me to keep him as my best friend, etc. It just can't be that way. I know he is hurting, but I get frustrated. I feel empathy for him, but he has no room to even fathom what I am going through. He can't see past himself right now.
H has so much control over me still. I hate it. Some thoughts, some actions, I still stop and subconsciously (or even consciously) think what H will think or do after I make so-and-so decision/remark. Need to work on that, for sure.
