((((GFI))))) So you caved, but you also made yourself heard. You have to do what is right for you and only you know what it is that you can and can't accept.
It happened, now you just move on.
Love you and I'm here for you. (((((hugs)))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Repeat after me "I am not weak". You are none of those things that you listed. My friend, you love your husband, you are faithful, you long to be close to him. Of course you were with him. Of course.
But you have to judge how it makes you feel after the initial yummy contact. Does it hurt you? Does it make you feel used? Does it make you long for something that H cannot give you at this point? Does it satisfy you beyond the actual satisfaction (meaning, did you get everything you want. I never got the closeness/cuddling I so desparately needed).
You are amazing. You are a committed morally beautiful person. Don't let your H manipulate that part of you.
WTF? You need to start respecting yourself, not your H. I know it's hard to do when you haven't done it for awhile, but start. Hold your relationships to a higher standard. If he's willing to make the effort to meet that standard, great. But otherwise, forget it.
"I love you if you keep your mouth shut?" Ohhhh, this guy is pushing it, isn't he? Didn't you get mad? "Talking messes things up for you?". Well, "f@cking messes things up for you "girl"". No thanks, I will pass. I like to talk when I am having sex. It would ruin the excitement for me to keep quiet...
If he wants you, he knows exactly what to do to get you back. Even if you had signed the papers he could still turn it around. Dont let him play with you and make you feel guilty or upset with your -correct- choices.
Your game, your rules (my Prince says that, I borrowed it). K
Next time you see him and he mentions sex or showers or any of that put this thought in your mind and nothing else..it's just a thought and will help keep you on the task at hand and not in the shower with him..
Imagine yourself standing in front of him, facing him..looking into those big eyes of his, looking at that strapping "stud" of a man...glance over to his right and see OW's face, then look back at him and take one step back then kick him in the nuts...
Now this is just fantasy..it's nothing but thoughts...no actions are required.
he's using you.
What he is doing borders on mental abuse IMO. he's playing you.
I'm afraid I have to agree - "talking messes things up" so let's just go take a shower?!? WTF? You need to be treated with respect. He needs to cherish and honor you. You may still have feelings, but not at the expense of your self-respect, and not if it negatively affects your ability to move on to someone who will treat you the way you deserve.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
WTF? You need to start respecting yourself, not your H. I know it's hard to do when you haven't done it for awhile, but start. Hold your relationships to a higher standard. If he's willing to make the effort to meet that standard, great. But otherwise, forget it.
You deserve what you want.
Ouch. I don't really know how to interpret this...
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
