Buddy, I'm sorry you are finding yourself in this situation. My only advice is consistant with that you've already received. Make your own happiness. When you are positive and independent she seems to react better to you. Read back and think about when she responded the best to you. It's when you were the most independent and the most positive.
Be positive John. Try just a little harder. Don't set traps to test her. It's never going to work out well.
