I am sorry to hear that your W has decided to start dating. I've had to experience that with my W and it is torture. It is hard to imagine how someone can be so cruel.
Now is the time for you to focus only on yourself and the kids.
You need to consult with a lawyer now and figure out your rights. Can you stay with the house? How can you get your W out? Here is a bit of censored advice my cousin gave me shortly after I gave my wife the boot out of the house:
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Oh JEEZ!! Good Gawd that's a shock.
I'm sorry to hear you've been going through so much crap. I know that what I'm reading about here is just the tip of the iceberg.
As you know I've been around the block a few times. I also have spent a lot of time around the job box with construction workers, the majority of which seem to be divorce prone, so you might imagine that I have heard all kinds of horror stories. I've written a couple myself. If there is one piece of advice that I would give you, fellow cousin, is strike hard and strike fast.
Do NOT show mercy in the beginning. There is always time for that later if she comes around but keep that big gun loaded and cocked.
You WILL regret ignoring these words.
Be the exception to the rule. Don't be the guy (because there are lots of them) that says later:
"I wish I would have listened to you but I didn't think she was like that" Or "I really got f___ed" "I should have" ...blah blah blah.
I'm not saying hammer the b!tch right out of the gate. But you need to be prepared to do so in the office with your lawyer. You can always call him off if things don't go your way but it doesn't work the other way around.
I'm talking change the locks, file restraining orders. LOCK her out of your life until YOU can dictate how far back into your life and your wallet YOU are willing to let her into.
Do NOT let her move back in. You need to show that she willingly left the family and the house where the kids live.
