Ali - I am glad you are going to find another source for a vacation and have a drink/toast to me! That is a start. I am also glad that you will have a few days without him.
Darling, I don't even want to say this as I know you already "know" and you've already thought of this but....do you want your daughter to grow up and end up in a marriage exactly like yours? Because that is what will likely happen to her.
I can't say any more than that without really "going off" so I will just leave it at that. Sweetie, I know you can take all the heat and love him through it all...and you can take responsibility for your own self and what happens to you as a result of your marriage to him...but your daughter cannot protect herself. Only YOU can protect her from the view of this stuff and from his drunkenness.
Please SHOW HER how a woman respects herself and what she does when faced with a man who is addicted/scoundrel/whatever....be her hero, not just her mom.
