Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
ok so here it goes.... yesterday we met for lunch after his run..our favorite lunch place that we hadnt been together since.... so that was nice- he talked a lot again..i just listened and am really working on staying quiet and allowing silence..that has always been an issue for me..i always felt the need to fill the void...not needed at all! i had checked the movie show times earlier and suggested we see Dark Night..and i found it in IMAX..so he went home to change and i met him at his place right as he got out of the shower...oh boy. we just cuddled on his bed and almost ripped eachothers skin off but no nookie- just lots of fun and playfulness we tried t get up a few times but just fell back into bed and snuggled !!!! i actually used his line and said im not ready yet with a huge smile on my face. he said i know....and kissed me!
then we went to the city- it was so stressful getting there and we were cutting it close to the movie- i stayed very clam..i get really nervous when things are very chaotic..i started getting a migraine and didnt say anything...we finally found a spot ran to the theater and realized i found the wrong IMAX showtime- luckily they had the movie playing in a regular theater so we just decided to go there..it was very crowded but it all worked out...then we get out of the movie theater and it is in a very seedy part of the city for some reason..and my H is a cop and felt totally on edge- he never gets like this. i was uncomfortable too- he said i should have brought my gun- he never brings it anywhere...so needless to say it was a really weird twilight zone afternoon- but i managed to stay relatively calm...then we went to dinner in a nice part of the city and fund great place on the water...we cuddled in the fog while waiting for a table and calmed down!
Dinner was great and calm and we finally felt back to normal- i said all the calm from cuddling was jolted earlier! he laughed and we had a really nice dinner...talked a bit about where to live ideas- so that was good- i used we and us a lot and so did he.
then i had to get my car at his place so i just got out and he said he had a great day with me - i said me too and kissed him on the cheek....
so its all good and i didnt ask him to come over or anything or stay the night. i just let it be.
whew!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Very nice......I almost need a cigarette when I read your threads....and I never have smoked......so much cuddling. Glad you had a great time, keep it up!
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
thanks Jen! it was amazing- it was sooooo nice- i didnt want to get out of bed but at the same time i was antsy and so was he...
well i invited him to the beach today to take our doggie running..no word back yet..so ill just go by myself...which is fine..playing a little hookie today! when we left last night- he said ill talk to you soon im sure so maybe he just needs time to process everything...ill lay low for a bit.
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
so i didnt got to the beach- almost rainy foggy so not really a good idea...i took my woofie out for a little ball time though so she is now content.
so im feeling poopy about him not contacting me back- but i realize that he just needs time and space...i just want to be with him all the time now...
i have enough to do and im sure he will call me later- but it is so weird how when things are going well I want it all back now...i know it wont work that way...
and there is no point in guessing how long it will take for him to say I WANT TO WORK ON THINGS....but his actions are showing me this so i am happy...
I just want the full commitment
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
PVery nice......I almost need a cigarette when I read your threads...
Ha! I agree. And since I'm on the "love chemical" kick today ;), all that cudding is supposed to increase oxytocin, the pair-bonding, nest-building, love hormone. So, right on.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
we tried t get up a few times but just fell back into bed and snuggled !!!! i actually used his line and said im not ready yet with a huge smile on my face. he said i know....and kissed me!