So I went out of town this weekend for a girls weekend. H stayed home with the kids. I had a blast!!! H called and texted me most of the weekend. Someone even said, 'My H loves me more than fishing and he doesn't even call me that much!'
That's something he used to do all the time. When we weren't together, he was always calling me for random stuff. My friends would even beg me to turn my phone off!
When I got back yesterday, he initiated some stuff and we hung out a bit, then he went out for a bit. I had told him I was exhausted and was going to bed early, so he texted me later to say goodnight and hope I had a good night's sleep and that he loved me. He hasn't said he loved me in quite a long time, so I actually thought he had sent the text to the wrong person! I didn't say anything back so he sent another one saying, 'no, i really do.' so I told him I was sorry, I had been making the bed.
He's surpassed his usual time of WAW, still here, still affectionate, still calling quite a bit when we're apart, still making plans for the weekends a head and the future.
I believe they're still talking, but I'm not sure about how much and who initiates it. But I'm not bringing her up at all. He did mention the other day about having her calling in a precription for him for something because he's about to have surgery. I told him I would rather he didn't do that. He asked why and I told him 'just because.' When I got home yesterday, there's a bottle of a the stuff he wanted on the counter with the label ripped off. But there's only a few pills in there, it's not a full prescription. I did say something about where he got them, and he looked at me and asked if I was serious. I told him I was just wondering! He said no, he didn't get them from her.
He informed me today that he was invited to a football game from this guy this coming weekend and they're spending the night downtown and hitting the casinos and such. I told him it was fine. I didn't tell him that I'm a little concerned about it tho. It's gonna be a battle for me this week not to mention anything about it. It's only fair because I spend the weekend away with the girls, he should be able to spend the night with the guys doing guy things.
I don't know if he's keeping her on the side or what, if he is, he's doing a better job of hiding it than he ever did before. He was always able to keep her there cuz he would say it would be different after the D was final. But he can't fall back on that anymore cuz HE's the one who dismissed it. Also, she always thought she would be moving with him when he got his next orders, but now, he won't be able to help her with that cuz I'll know how much money he gets for moving and because she's not a dependant, they won't move her with him. So she'll have to move herself. Also, I feel that IF he continues to keep her on the side, she'll start bothering me again, like she has in the past to start issues between us.
These are just some of the random thoughts I've been having. I try to push them away as much as I can, but they're still there down deep. I don't want to talk to him about them because I've been doing good of not bringing her up and I know if I did, it will definitely start issues with us. Over the last year that we had been seperated, the only thing we fought about was her.


Me- 29
X - 30
M - 7.5 years
Final April 2009
S - 2005
D - 2007


Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.

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