OW is PG

[Livin4ME]

Thank you guys so much! I'm so glad ya'll are here for me to vent to!
I was thinking the same thing Corey.
A while back at our bbq when they both were here, she kept asking me all these questions about my pregnancies, how I found out and such. Nothing about the kids themselves, just about the pregnancies. So I told her, just cuz it kept her from talking about the current situation, which I did NOT want to talk about and she did. She even asked what I would do if I found out I was pg at the time. The next day, H actually thought I was pg and I dropped the bomb on her instead of him!
So she made a comment to him when she told she was that I got picked up and twirled around when I told him I was PG and she got left. wtf!? Who says something like that!?
So when he didn't go crawling back to her after 2 weeks like he normally does, she decides it's time for a miscarriage. That way he can come comfort her and he can see just how much she needs him. And now that she's supposedly not pg, things will be perfect between them.
And now she's supposedly having all these problems with it. the excess bleeding and such. I know it's a touchy subject, and I have never had one. But I know alot of people who have. And I know that no one is different. But the way she is describing it, is unlike anyone else's. That's why I have a hard time believing it. I delivered 2 children and not once did I 'ruin my sheets and mattress' afterwards. I took the precautions not too! I've been having my 'Aunt Flo' for many years now and the last time I bled thru to the sheets was in middle school!
AHHHH, ok, enough venting. It just bothers me so much that someone who was so adament about NOT having children, and so adament that she did NOT need him, and prided herself in her support group, I.E. family and friends, is now behaving worse than my 3 year old.

[Livin4ME]

Ya know, I try to have sympathy for her, because it is a really bad situation that I wouldn't wish on anyone. But she's making it very hard. Many months ago, she asked me what she should do. She doesn't need him, her life was so much better and drama free before him. I told her, get out while you can. I'm stuck because we will always be in each others lives because of the children. I love him and always will. And I will always take him back because of my love for him. Get out while you can. Listen to your gut, listen to your family and friends. Get out before it's too late. Her brother told her that her and I were going down the same path and it was going to end the same way. Her brother told her that!!!!
So she makes it very hard for me to have sympathy for her.

[kat727]

I think you nailed it on the head. When I miscarried at 6 weeks, it was just like a heavier period. She is sooo making it up.

kat

[Livin4ME]

So I went out of town this weekend for a girls weekend. H stayed home with the kids. I had a blast!!! H called and texted me most of the weekend. Someone even said, 'My H loves me more than fishing and he doesn't even call me that much!'
That's something he used to do all the time. When we weren't together, he was always calling me for random stuff. My friends would even beg me to turn my phone off!
When I got back yesterday, he initiated some stuff and we hung out a bit, then he went out for a bit. I had told him I was exhausted and was going to bed early, so he texted me later to say goodnight and hope I had a good night's sleep and that he loved me. He hasn't said he loved me in quite a long time, so I actually thought he had sent the text to the wrong person! I didn't say anything back so he sent another one saying, 'no, i really do.' so I told him I was sorry, I had been making the bed.
He's surpassed his usual time of WAW, still here, still affectionate, still calling quite a bit when we're apart, still making plans for the weekends a head and the future.
I believe they're still talking, but I'm not sure about how much and who initiates it. But I'm not bringing her up at all. He did mention the other day about having her calling in a precription for him for something because he's about to have surgery. I told him I would rather he didn't do that. He asked why and I told him 'just because.' When I got home yesterday, there's a bottle of a the stuff he wanted on the counter with the label ripped off. But there's only a few pills in there, it's not a full prescription. I did say something about where he got them, and he looked at me and asked if I was serious. I told him I was just wondering! He said no, he didn't get them from her.
He informed me today that he was invited to a football game from this guy this coming weekend and they're spending the night downtown and hitting the casinos and such. I told him it was fine. I didn't tell him that I'm a little concerned about it tho. It's gonna be a battle for me this week not to mention anything about it. It's only fair because I spend the weekend away with the girls, he should be able to spend the night with the guys doing guy things.
I don't know if he's keeping her on the side or what, if he is, he's doing a better job of hiding it than he ever did before. He was always able to keep her there cuz he would say it would be different after the D was final. But he can't fall back on that anymore cuz HE's the one who dismissed it. Also, she always thought she would be moving with him when he got his next orders, but now, he won't be able to help her with that cuz I'll know how much money he gets for moving and because she's not a dependant, they won't move her with him. So she'll have to move herself. Also, I feel that IF he continues to keep her on the side, she'll start bothering me again, like she has in the past to start issues between us.
These are just some of the random thoughts I've been having. I try to push them away as much as I can, but they're still there down deep. I don't want to talk to him about them because I've been doing good of not bringing her up and I know if I did, it will definitely start issues with us. Over the last year that we had been seperated, the only thing we fought about was her.

[Sugar and Spice]

(((C13))) Just checking on you today....

[Livin4ME]

((Corey)) thanks, it's good to know there's someone out there!
Well, today my curiosity got the better of me. he asked me to move his car into the garage before he left to go play bball...he was taking mine to go play. He had to get something out of it tho, so I handed him the keys and he went a head and moved it in. But I noticed he looked like he tucked something under the seat in the back before he moved it. So when he left, I peaked. It was a pair of pants the OW had given him when they were together. She bought him ALOT of clothes. He loved wearing these tho cuz they're sweat pants and very comfy. Makes me wonder tho. Either A)he didn't give these particular ones back to her when he gave her the rest of the stuff. or B) he has since gotten them back. Makes me wonder...considering it looked like he hid them before asking me to move the car and I haven't seen him wearing them since he's been home for the past month.
I'm tempted to just take them out and wash them and put them in his drawer. But I don't know.
Other than that, everything is good. Same ole, same ole. He's getting ready to have knee surgery, so he'll be laid up for 2 weeks. And we're going to a friend place up north for Labor Day weekend to camp out with the kids and a bunch of friends, so that should be fun!
How's everything with you?

[Livin4ME]

So H is still in contact with OW. I asked him about it last night. He said yes, they still talk every once in a while. I asked why, he said because it is hard. I asked if it was ever going to stop. He said he didn't know. But he would like to think it will. I told him it's like ripping off a bandaid. The slower he does it, the more painful it will be. I'm half tempted to show up at her work and tell her to go away. But I know I can't do that. I keep reminding myself it's in God's hands. I have to step back and let Him take care of it. But we all know how are that is to do. Please pray for me that I will continue to let God work in my life.
When we went to bed last night, I didn't initiate any cuddling, but he did. The last couple of nights, I had been the one initiating, he would respond for a minute, then move away. Last night, he initiated many times during the night, I would respond. But early this morning, I woke up to him looking at his phone and texting someone. I don't have to think real hard as to who it was. I just looked at him, I'm not sure if he even realized I saw him. Then I rolled over and when he was done, he rolled over and cuddled a bit til he fell back asleep.
I'm not sure how often they see each other because with his work, he is on the road alot during the day and go where he pleases. It should be interesting over the next couple of weeks as he is having his surgery tomorrow and will be out of work for that time.

[Sugar and Spice]

(((C13))) I haven't been posting but I'm still reading. You are a strong woman and I commend your faith and self control in your sitch... It will be interesting with him home, maybe it will give him the time to get rid of her for good. Praying for you.